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DIANE HUGHES • NASHVILLE, TN
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Me, myself and I  

9/16/2012

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I'm not making a political statement (and who knows how many grammatical errors might have been made in the recent DNC speeches), but the following grammar faux pas by Mitt Romney rang in my ears during the recent Republican National Convention:

But if you ask Ann and I what we'd give, to break up just one more fight between the boys...

Sorry, Mitt. That should be "Ann and me."

I and me are personal pronouns. We use the personal pronoun I (a subject pronoun) when referring to a subject (the doer of action); use me (an object pronoun) when referring to the object of an action. In the example from Mitt's speech, the "I" in the sentence is being asked a question; it is the object of the action. 

Most speakers and writers understand the basics of personal pronouns. It's when we're faced with a compound subject (like Mitt's) that some of us choke and use the wrong pronoun. For example, most of us know it's correct to say "I went to the concert last night"  instead of "Me went to the concert last night."  And "John gave the concert tickets to me" would be an easy choice over "John gave the concert tickets to I."  Still, some folks would easily (and incorrectly) say: "John gave the concert tickets to Jim and I."

An easy way to determine if you're using the correct pronoun is to break down the compound subject in a sentence and make it into two complete sentences with a single subject:

John gave the concert tickets to Jim. 
John gave the concert tickets to me. 

John gave the concert tickets to Jim and me.

If me is correct by itself, then it's the right choice when you're using it with with another noun.

Another common mistake is the misuse of the reflexive pronoun myself. For example:

Read the report and send your feedback to Tom and myself. (wrong)
Read the report and send your feedback to Tom and me. (correct)

As a reflexive pronoun, myself must be preceded by a noun, pronoun, adjective or adverb that it refers back to (its antecedent). In the example above, myself has no antecedent. Examples of correct usage include:

I saw myself in the mirror.
I treated myself to a cup of hot tea.


In these examples, myself refers back to its antecedent: I. Himself, herself and yourself are also reflexive pronouns. You could easily substitute he/himself or her/herself into the second sentence above. (She treated herself to a cup of hot tea.)

That's it for me, myself and I. I hope this post helped you sort out any issues you might have in using them. 

Have you been tripped up by personal pronouns? Do you notice when writers and speakers misuse the pronouns cited in this post? Please share your thoughts in the Comments. 
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6 Comments
Melissa Maygrove link
9/17/2012 11:55:45 am

Yea! Another grammar crusader!!! :D
Great post.

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Diane Hughes link
9/17/2012 12:57:14 pm

Thanks, Melissa. The world needs more of us, no? Too many typos; too little time.

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Veronica Bartles link
9/17/2012 11:58:35 am

It drives me crazy when people misuse pronouns like this too. Of course, it's rude to constantly correct perfect strangers on their grammar habits, so usually I just cringe in silence :)

I've noticed, recently, that the MS Word grammar check program misuses pronouns on a regular basis - it's constantly trying to get me to change to incorrect usage of "myself!"

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Diane Hughes link
9/17/2012 01:03:52 pm

I know, Veronica. Sometimes it's hard to hold back, but I'd rather be polite. While I do sometimes point out mistakes to close writing friends, I do so privately. I want to educate, not embarrass. :-)

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J Santay
4/18/2018 01:52:47 pm

What about "I wanted it to stay between Tom and me."
"I wanted it to stay between Tom and myself". "Me" sounds better to me, but "myself" refers to "I".

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Pennsylvania Men for Men link
11/14/2022 02:20:11 pm

Hi great reading your poost

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